Live the dream……
I was really impressed as I was ushered into the presence of my students. But something was quite different about them this time around.
There was this glow on their faces that I noticed. It was a non-verbal communication that said ‘We are ready to take the world’
I was at the Samsung dreams project to facilitate a session on navigating issues at work. It was more of how to overcome sexual harassment. For over 10years I had facilitated different sexuality education session and this was quite different because they were quite young and potential professionals.
Unlike students who could change their minds easily these were people who had their opinion on various issues formed but I presented my session well and was really impressed with their comportment and the level of questions they asked at the end of the class
But beyond all those was the desire to change and the sincerity they exhibited. A couple of things became so clear to me after my session that day;
1. No one can change a man that is unwilling to change
2. Until you embrace a truth that is superior to what you have always held on to you may not experience freedom
3. What you don’t know is your mountain so learn to ask questions
4. You are alone by yourself at the end of the day so there is no point pretending or trying to prove who you are not. Get help while its available cos you may never have another opportunity
5. Finally you are the future of this country so your irresponsibility/responsibility may be personal but its never private.
After my session I honestly believe this country of ours is about to witness the manifestation or the re-birth of a brand new Nigerians
Keep your dream alive and don’t let it die. Be faithful to your spouse and abstain from pre-marital sex.

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YOUR CHILD & SEX – 5-8years (AWARENESS & I)
It was a great session we had last week as many parents and teachers gathered to learn basic sexuality education for children between 18months-12years. The participants had a wonderful time and everyone left the workshop with a burden to do something as we seek to kick out child sexual abuse. I must specially appreciate the First Lady of Lagos State Her Excellency Mrs. Abimbola Fashola for her support all through the workshop especially sponsoring people to the event. I believe more than ever that with leaders like her we shall soon kick out child sexual abuse and I pray other first ladies become interested in curbing this menace that has the tendency to wipe out our future if nothing is done;
For many of you asking for the resources for the workshop you can send us an SMS but you can still make the makeup session on the 23rd of this month if you missed the last one. But for those of you outside Lagos, it is our intention to take the sessions round the country once we get the logistics in place so please be patient with us but you can order for the workshop kits.
For parents with children between the age range of 5-8years here are the basic traits you may likely experience with your children
- Unpredictable mood swings
- Becomes competitive and wants to win
- Feels very guilty about mistakes but may have problems admitting his mistakes
- Interested in same sex relationships at 7- boys want to play with boys and same for girls
- Desires to do things right and perform well
- More likely to complain than rejoice
- Could be introverted but becomes extroverted at 8
- Wants a little bit of independence and respect for privacy
- Nothing seems difficult for her and often overestimates her ability to get things done.
- Has strong need for love and understanding
- Hates being criticized
- Loves to be part of a group
- Becomes involved in boy-girl relationships at 8
- Understands sexuality very well and could learn the wrong values from friends if not well explained.
As a parent or a teacher you will have to cover about 5 different modules with your children and they include the following:
1. World changers – You will introduce them to positive role-models who started very early and were able to positively affect their world. We cover 4 major personalities like – Thomas Edison (electric bulb), Bill gates (Microsoft), Jesse Owens(4 Olympic gold medals) and Wilbur and Orville Wright(Aeroplane). We have songs and games for this module as well.
2. Me and my identity – Many children here compare their body parts with others so you will have to teach them about their real identity. Your child is a star, leader, world champion, world changer, a king etc
3. Me and my values – Teach them that their values are those qualities and characteristics that people see when they meet them and it determines what I do and how I live. Get them to select 5 major values that best describe who they intend to become in the future. The most important lesson here is the power of one that says ‘That everyone is doing doesn’t make it right and that he is the only one doing it doesn’t make it wrong either.
4. Me and my friends – Teach them how to differentiate between good and bad friends and let them understand that they must choose their friends based on their values
5. Fire on the mountain II - to be continued

YOUR CHILD & SEX – 3-5years(CURIOSITY & I)
Every parent must understand that many children are being abused at the moment and it is your responsibility to know what to teach your child at every stage of his/her life.
Today we shall move on to children between the ages of 3-5years. It is important to understand that there are things we can’t teach here. That is why we host the basic sexuality education workshop so that you can learn the songs and use the workbook for effective understanding of these modules (the next session comes up on May 1)
Between 3-5years children are supposed to go through the CURIOSITY & I module.
The objective of this is to assist him/her differentiate between male and female as well as answering some of the questions they already have that bother on identity.
Here are some of the modules we cover under curiosity and I
- RESPECT
- GOLDEN RULES – for personal space
- FIRE ON THE MOUNTAIN – for prevention of child sexual abuse.
Before I explain RESPECT you as a parent needs to understand the traits exhibited by children within the age range:
- Has great energy and wants to do things alone
- Likes to learn new words and becomes very curious and inquisitive
- Loves to listen to short stories and songs
- Seeks attention and approval of adults
- Energetic and imaginative at 4. Full of wild stories and exaggerations
- Asks a lot of questions especially about births. Enjoy stories and can answer questions
- Loves to play in groups but could be violent if not controlled
- At 5 has a vocabulary of 13000words. So explain difficult words with simple meanings
- Can draw pictures and would argue about so many things
- Likes to feel like a bigger boy /girl than the young ones.

Some of them will ask you so many questions at this age and you must be ready to answer the question.
You would have to use RESPECT to teach morals here i.e
R-reach out to help me
E-encourage me
S-save me from danger
P-paint me well
E-elevate me
C-celebrate me
T-treat me right
Note: Each of the alphabets comes with a story or an activity to drive home the points.
At this age also you have to teach them the 4 golden rule and the alarm bells that they must run away from.
Rule 1- My Body belongs to me and also belongs to God
Rule 2- I must report to my dad and mummy whatever happens to me
Rule 3- I have a right to say no to whatever I feel is wrong
Rule 4-Anybody that says I should not talk wants to destroy my future

Alarm bells
Bad movies , bad pictures, bad songs, bad friends, there is fire on the mountain so run and run and run away because there is fire on the mountain

You need to be closer to your child and be there to answer all the questions they raise because if you leave them at the mercy of an untrained house-help they may get the wrong answer. You may also need to observe that child occasionally because we once had a case of a 4year old that was sodomized by a houseboy without his parent’s knowledge.

Fire on the mountain – When your child at this age begins to avoid a particular adult or talks to a man/woman he should naturally respect anyhow. You might need to investigate what is going on.

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YOUR CHILD & SEX –18months-3years(MY BODY & I)
Sola was just had just clocked 3years when she was sexually abused by her uncle living in their house. She made to report to her mother but her inability to pronounce penis and the insensitivity of her mother ensured the abuse continued for 7 straight years. According to her ‘I ran to my mother to report how Uncle inserted a nail inside my bumbum but she joined my other siblings to laugh at me’. She stopped talking to them afterwards and the predator abused her for 7years. She is now a mother of 2 but buzzed my line after seeing my sexuality education dvd to confirm the fact that sexuality education should start at 18months.
Between 18months-3years you teach what we have tagged ‘My Body and I’
Here are the traits of children within this age range
- They are more aware of themselves and environment
- They imitate what they see people do especially you
- They follow simple commands and understand simple questions
- They don’t understand consequences of things so try to touch everything
- They can appreciate a simple story and song because their attention span is very short
- At 2years they can learn 50words every month.
- When they throw temper tantrums, and demonstrate stubbornness, it’s their way of saying ‘NO’
- They can participate in group plays at 3.
The predator(abuser/paedophile) would usually capitalize on the ignorance of your child at this age especially with respect to correct pronunciation of body parts.
So here you teach about the body of your child as well as teaching them the proper pronunciation of different body parts. You also need to differentiate between private and public parts.
We have developed a workbook and audio songs for teaching sex at this stage effectively and I hope you are able to make the May 1 basic sexuality education forum in Lagos. But for those who may not be able to make it down I will try and assist but you may need to get the songs.
Start by teaching them about public parts after which you move to private parts.

Public Parts Private Parts
Eyes Lips
Ear Laps
Hair Bumbum
Hands Vagina for girls
Legs Penis for boys
Nose
Mouth

Explain to your 18months-3years that public parts are those parts that they can share with people and people can see and touch while private parts are those parts they must not allow people touch or use.
Teach them that they must police and cover private parts. I have added lips as a private part because the predator usually starts with the lips through kiss. Let me warn here that if you are fond of kissing your 18months-3years on the lips you might need to avoid that and kiss them on the cheek because the predator refers to that as daddy’s play and goes ahead to start kissing your child without your knowledge.
There are some stories you may need to use here to strengthen what you just taught your child(they are available in the workbook)
Finally you may need to carry out some forms of routine check on children within this age range by asking them if anyone tried touching their private parts and asked them not to tell mummy. Children are very innocent and will open up to you and if they don’t(because sometimes the predator warns them never to tell anyone if they don’t want their father to die) observe their composure it will give you a clue.
Always be calm when dealing with these children in case they share something with you. Don’t shout on them. If you don’t know what to do you can give me a call but understand that they need to be protected at all cost.
Have a fantastic Easter break and do remember what the season is all about.
Fire on the mountain – When a lively child suddenly withdraws or suddenly begins to cry at the sight of a particular person. You may need to find out the true state of things. It is not impossible that abuse is taking place.

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YOUR CHILD & SEX
I appreciate your response to the series we just concluded ‘Unbreak my heart’. It was really shocking to see the numerous cases of people who were victim of heartbreak but my joy knew no bound when you all said the series was very helpful. I will publish your comments very soon.
I have always felt like doing something for children on the area of their sexuality which most parents shy away from. So this season I will try and educate you a little bit on the subject of sexuality.
I have to do this because contrary to reports that child sexual abuse is reducing. The truth is it’s actually on the increase in our part of the world. I wouldn’t want to scare you as a parent but would not also want you to assume that your little child is not being touched by someone not totally far away from you.
A couple of years ago there was a declaration that children were gradually going into extinction – real children. A lot of parents called to ask me about my opinion on the declaration and I answered by asking a few questions which I will also ask you as a parent:
- When was the last time you saw children gather on your street to play the game called ‘Tente’
- When was the last time you saw a kite being flown by a child on your street (even in the ghettos and the villages)?
- When was the last time you saw children play hide and seek?
- When was the last time you saw a child’s song being played by any radio or TV station in our country?
- What songs and movies do our children see at the moment?
If you compare what you did as a child to what your child is doing you would have been able to discover that we may not really have children afterall.
I was shocked at how much 4year olds know about two popular Mexican soaps ‘When you are mine(they call it Diego and Paloma) and ‘Second chance’
Sometimes I even wonder if we ever think of their existence because most of the movies in the market have a 16 rating. But don’t 4-7year olds also see the movies at the end of the day?
We hosted a Basic sexuality education workshop for parents and teachers handling 18months-12year old last Saturday and it was an eye opener for most of the parents that made it to the workshop because of the many aspects of their children they were blind to(the next one comes up on May 1)
So if your 14 year old says ‘That girl’s Liverpool is an arsenal’ do you understand what it means?
If your 12year old talks about her friend being more courageous than she is, do you understand what it means?
If you have a child with an email that reads dupe@boobslover.com do you understand the implication?
The truth is that you can’t effectively be a child’s teacher without first of all being his student. So the question you may want to ask is when should sex education start? Who should teach it? And how should it be taught?
I will try and open us to some of the things I feel you should know as a parent but will advice you to block 1st May 2009 in your diary and make it a date with us as we explore what to teach about sex from 18months-12years. You can send sms for details.
Now my answers to the raised questions are:
Sex education should start at 18months to be taught by you as a parent but the how to go about it is my responsibility so ensure you don’t miss this column in the next 5weeks because I will be sharing some of the things you need to know about your child and his sexuality.
I am sure you know Britain have been able to give the world the youngest mother who became pregnant at 11. We have a lot of work to do my people and like we say sexuality education must start from home.
We shall cover the following
18months-3years – My Body and I
3-5years – Curiosity and I
5-8years – Awareness and I
8-12years- Life is good

To be continued.

UNBREAK MY HEART – Effects
When one is in love one begins by deceiving oneself and ends deceiving others, that is what the world calls a romance.
Oscar Wilde
Desperate people – The final group of people who are most vulnerable to heartbreaks are desperate people. The evil in this part of the world is thinking that some people have problems because they have attained a certain age without getting married. This has led so many people into getting into relationships that was doomed to fail from the beginning. What makes you think you have a problem at 35 or even 40? Is that reason strong enough for you to rush into marriage with a 25year old that runs away with your money and you complain of heartbreak?

While I don’t believe people should break other people’s heart, my heart goes out to those whose hearts seem to have been broken at one time or the other. Especially those faithful spouses who trusted their partners, worked hard to get the best for your partner only to be betrayed by the very person you were making a huge sacrifice for. How do we explain a woman that was ‘slaving’ to make enough money for her family while the husband was spending her hard earned money on another lady elsewhere? How about a man spending everything to satisfy his woman only for the woman to run away with his driver?
I intentionally omitted a category of people who are also vulnerable to heartbreaks and many times what happens in their adulthood is as a result of what had been done to them at childhood. I am talking about those little children who were subjected to all forms of sexual abuse by the people they trusted. My heart also goes to those ladies that were forcefully violated by some friends they trusted. My heart bled when a lady was sharing how she went to visit a friend only for her friend’s brother to drug their drinks and while the two of them were sound asleep forcefully raped her without her knowledge.
What about a mother of two that was narrating how her auntie’s houseboy drugged her drink when she was 13. He raped her without her knowledge as well. She became pregnant and the pregnancy was terminated without her knowledge (her aunty lied to her that she was having typhoid and the doctor would have to extract some things from her vagina). For over 15 years she battled with low self esteem and had to get married to feel loved which she found so hard to get.
She only got to know about all these because her aunty had found it hard to conceive and it was where she went to pray that she was told to go and confess and apologize to a girl that once lived with her.
The effect of heart breaks whether consciously or unconsciously is never a pleasant experience for anyone. And some of the effects include the following;
- Suspicion – They view everyone that comes their way from the screen of the person that broke their hearts
- Distrust – It becomes difficult to trust another person
- Low Self Esteem –They look down on themselves which makes them vulnerable to abusive relationships
- Suicide – Some find it hard to let go that they eventually end their lives
- Vengeance – Have you ever met a bitter lady who has already vowed to deal with men
- Anorexia- Some find it hard to relate with opposite sex
- Emotional bankruptcy – A feeling of emptiness.
There are many other effects but I must say to you that no matter what has been done to you, there is a place of starting afresh with what you have learnt from the heartbreaks. There is so much to lose for not forgiving your spouse as it doesn’t just affect you but others around you.
To be continued.

ABOUT SEX-PURE-CENTRIC FRIENDSHIP CENTER

INTRODUCTION
Imagine if just life expectancy drops to 30 in Africa? You don’t want that to happen right?
Are you aware that 1 out of every 4 ladies and 1 out of every 6 boys have been sexually abused before their 18th birthday?
While some of us were lucky not to have been sexually abused, the effect of the abuse is evident in our world today because on a daily basis more girls leave the homes to live in the brothels while more young boys are becoming miscreants and even rapists.
With the innocents minds of our young people being abused on a daily basis by the movie and the music industry coupled with the fact that so many young people are now sexually active which had increased the possibility of contacting the dreaded HIV/AIDS. There is the need to do something urgently or even raise a sexually pure generation of people who know the truth about their sexuality and are able to properly manage it as they influence others. Take it or leave it we are all victims of our sexual illiteracy. That is why something has to be done urgently.
The truth is, if nothing is done because you think you are fine and have no problems at all you must remember that you may need a house help someday, your child would need a teacher someday or even have some new friends someday or even get married someday and the people you could have taken responsibility for that we failed to assist may eventually be the ones to destroy the children we have raised(may it not happen).
That is the whole essence of this assignment.
Condom
As much as we appreciate agencies advocating condom we all know that sex isn’t just physical and there is no condom that can protect the innocent minds of our young people from the emotional and psychological effect of engaging in sex before marriage. We believe that young people can master their sexuality if they have access to the right information and positive role-model. If they can learn the right information about sex then they will think right, live right and ultimately grow up to become change agents in the society.
The only safe sex we believe is sex in the marriage environment.
YOU ARE WELCOME

OUR AIM –
That through the sex-pure-centric friendship centres, the right values about sex would be taught and spread on every street from generation to generation.

OUR OBJECTIVES
1. Raise a sexually pure generation of young people who know the truth about sex and live as role-models
2. Spread the right sexuality values across every streets of the nation
3. Assist the sexually challenge and the vulnerable by providing accountability platform
4. Reduce the rate of teenage pregnancy, death through abortion and the spread of sexually transmitted infections
5. Promote abstinence and restore chastity and mutual respect among young people.
6. Preserve the destinies of our future leaders.

HOW WE OPERATE
A sex-pure-centric friendship center is made up of 11 members(except special centres whose membership is unlimited) consisting of the SFC skippo, assistant skippo, team manager(welfare director) and the team scribe as the key leaders with others being members.
The team meet once every week in streets, offices, schools and homes to deliberate on different sexuality issues and get the right information about the issue.
The goal is to raise 11 right thinking leaders who can also start and manage 11 other sfcs and spread the right sexuality values.

MEMBERSHIP
Membership is free but the members must be willing to subscribe and abide by our core values as expressed by the acronym RAISE
R- responsibility
A-accountability
I-integrity
S-sexual purity
E-entrepreneuring
However intending leaders are trained in order to equip them for the task of running the SFC.

LEADERSHIP STRUCTURE
We operate a 4 by 4 leadership structure with the most important leader being the sfc leader.
4 SFCs make a Section - section leader
4 Sections(16 sfcs) make an area - area co-ordinator
4 areas (64 sfcs) make a zone - Zonal co-ordinator
4 zones(256sfcs) make a district - District Igwe

MONTHLY PREVIEW
All the sfc leaders in a section are expected to meet for a monthly preview to discuss the forum for every month having gotten the monthly manual from www.globalpurity.blogspot.com

MONTHLY REPORT
All the sfc leaders are expected to submit their reports to their immediate up line and also share their weekly experiences with us on-line by simply clicking post a comment on www.globalpurity.blogspot.com

Frequently asked question
1. What happens to my SFC in case I have to travel or go to school?
Response – we expect you to start developing your leaders immediately after the commencement of the sfc. Their should be no leadership vacuum and the meeting must continue in your absence however it won’t be a bad idea if you start another sfc in your zone.

2. What format is the meeting?
Response – It is interactive forum where everybody is expected to contribute and share experiences that can assist the other person. Also every meeting must end with the sex2sex pledge.

3. Are the SFC leaders allowed to raise funds?
Response – Anything the groups decide to collect must be voluntary, must be for the development of the group and must be disclosed to the leadership. Remember 2 of our core values accountability and integrity.

4. Can I customize my meetings?
Depending on the people you have decided to reach out to. The meetings may be customised for pre-teens, teenagers, Drivers, artisans and even core professionals. However every meeting must be in an open place. Also SFCs can decide to go for a charitable work but clearance must be gotten from your zonal co-ordinator.

For more enquiries call:
2348037269483, 234-1-8725024

Wealth under your shoe
It was about 2 days ago I was chatting with my friend Tope Akinyemi who I usually love to share a lot of issues with because of our common interests.
I remember praying for her that ‘May God open our eyes to see the wealth trapped under our shoe’ she asked immediately if it was the titled of my new post so I decided to write something on it.
As I got home to think about this it occurred to me that life is not meant to be as difficult as it is for many of us. How come the ground seems congested when there is open space just above us? It is one lesson I learnt a long time ago that what you earn is dependent on how vital the solution you are offering is and how difficult it is to replace you.
The greatest challenge with many of us in Nigerian is the fact that everything that seems to sell is what we all sell. Many a time we never bother to discover what we are best at so we struggle all through life without having a definite address or direction.
Imagine a Deolu Akinyemi fighting so hard to compete with Osaze Odemwingwe for a place in the Super Eagle’s striking role? But I want you to reverse the role and imagine an Osaze trying to beat Deolu to his trade?
If I ask you how many legs ‘dey waka for naija on a daily basis’ but where are all of them headed? Yet the same leg that some use to stand and gossip at free readers stand is the leg that conjures money into the account of Christiano Ronaldo. What is the difference – he discovered the wealth trapped in his legs.
How many mouths open to talk daily in this country without earning anything. Some even open to suggest solutions to the problems in this country without anyone listen yet each time the same mouth open for some others money drop in their bank accounts.
A woman once went to a supermarket with her wedding band on her finger. This woman was very poor that she was close to committing suicide. But she carefully wore her wedding band to always remind her of the memory of her 6months husband who died in a ghastly auto accident.
On getting to the supermarket she bought chocolate with the last $10 bill on her but something happened that changed her entire world. As she made to pay a man noticed the way she wore her wedding band and quickly brought out his camera to take a snapshot of her finger.
She was so confused at the fact that a stranger took her picture that she made to run away only for the man to ask for an appointment with her.
The following day they met and she was shocked to discover that an advertising agency had been looking for a posture of a wedding band to advertise a new product and hers fitted perfectly into what they were looking for. She was paid $79000 immediately. Her wealth was trapped in her hand.
People we don’t have any reason to be poor. Some of you are walking anyhow at the moment with just one shoe that you complain about all the time without knowing that your wealth is trapped under that shoe.
I guess the prayer we all need to pray as we look forward to a desirable nation is ‘God open my eyes to see the wealth you have placed under my shoe’ Struggles is nothing but a non discovery of the wealth trapped in you. That is why we all struggle to become sales persons, that are why every young man now wants to either play soccer or sing. There are too many things yet to be witnessed in our world. It may even look very foolish that you are wondering if people will pay for it at all.
Alli Baba has his doubts about comedy when he started today it has become a gold mine.
May God open your eyes to the exact thing you are supposed to be doing so that you don’t grope through life and remain anonymous. Remember that your place of calling is where you are well addressed and where others come under your address. But if you are not there you will go by other people’s address.
May you live to discover and fulfil your purpose. The credit crunch period is our best opportunity but it is a function of locating your place
God open my eyes to the wealth trapped under my shoe! Selah

Waiting

Sometimes it becomes very had to wait especially when you are very used to being on the move.

How do you wait for coins to drop when you are already used to millions? How do you wait idling away when you are already used to executing one thing or the other?

It even becomes more frustrating when you are not even sure of the next thing that would happen or the next job you will execute.

It becomes very frustrating when there are so many expectations around you that are not being met. It becomes more difficult when everyone around you sees you up there but you are the only one that feels you are down. What a very lonely moment!

A part of you feels very jealous seeing others on the move and making what you are used to making forgetting that when you were in the limelight they were nowhere in sight and maybe were also where you have found yourself

How do you go through this waiting time when you don’t know how to beg and it’s difficult for the people you could have talked with to believe you are going

through?

How do you explain the waiting to your landlord, family and dependants who look up to you for their sustenance? How do you explain to the offering basket in church that you are waiting when the same basket receives from others?

How do you explain to your car or the fuel attendant that you are waiting when your car sees its counterparts filled to the brim with full tank?

How do you explain waiting to your little daughter who sees her mates with Christmas doll or how do you explain waiting to your creditors?

Waiting period is very hard and sometimes the best of motivation is not enough to quench the frustration you feel or else what motivation can motivate an empty stomach to be filled or what motivation can motivate an empty bank account to be loaded?

Waiting time is a very anxious time and it is even better when you know how long you have to wait but what now happens when you have no clue about your waiting time?

What loneliness, what emptiness, what frustration and silence you feel when you have to wait. Not because you are lazy but simply because you have to wait.

It is not a pleasant experience i know but it could just be the right time to pick your pen and write about your experience. It could just be the right time to relax and learn that life has different seasons determined by God. So the way winter feels frustrated waiting for summer to end is the same way the spring feels frustrated waiting for the autumn.

How does it feel encouraging others when you are not encouraged or how does it feel giving people vital advice that worked for them when the same didn’t work for you and they even come back sharing their testimonies of the multi million naira project without even giving a dime to say thank you while you go hungry?

It is a period you go through different sets of emotions and face several temptations to help yourself out of the situation.

But if there is a light at the every tunnel if every cloud has a silver lining and if the darkest part of the night is the closest to morning then it might just be wise to wait till your change comes.

Have you ever experienced the feeling of a nation that has gone through famine when abundance comes or the feeling of a land that has been subjected to a very hot and harsh weather when winter comes?

Same way when your change comes. Everyone sees the glory but it might just be the appropriate time to bring out the book titled ‘my waiting time’ for them to experience the story behind the glory.

It is painful to wait true but you still have to wait whether you hate or dislike waiting for your change to come.

So wait as you enjoy this fantastic weekend

UNBREAK MY HEART –Why heartbreaks? (3)
Hello people just done with my marathon sessions that spanned House on the Rock, RCCG and IMT all in Enugu. Returned to Lagos to take on OAU this last weekend and capped it up yesterday speaking at Leaders summit alongside Yemi Ojelade and Sam Adeyemi.
For me it was a very significant meeting because my life would have been totally different but for Sam Adeyemi who coached me and encouraged me to become my best. It was also a great time for God’s people as many became free from their sex addictions and secrets all through these meetings. To God be the glory
Today i will continue on this hearbreak issue
which I hope to finish this time around before we begin to look at the way out of heartbreaks.
Insincere People – So many people are not sincere with themselves and that is why they are heartbroken. It has been said that you attract your type per time. How can you meet a guy for the first time and believe all his raps about ‘I can’t live without you’
How can you visit a guy’s house and see a fully loaded kitchen yet you believe there is no woman in his life? What sort of love has blinded you to the fact that he shies away from you meeting his parents or siblings and yet you talk about love? You couldn’t have been sincere with yourself by hopping into his bed when you have just met him.

Naïve People – Naïve people are too simple so they believe whatever they are told. A man is asking you to come and pass the night at his place yet you believe it’s all about love? She claims you are all she has and you simply believe that without asking if she has ever heard about God? You just got a job and your manager tells you the key to your greatness is a relationship with him and you believed. How come you didn’t bother to ask the last lady that was employed if she hadn’t warmed his bed as a result of the same lie. No man can over promote you above himself wait till he employs another lady and you shall find yourself where you rightly belong.

Selfish People – Some of us are heartbroken because of our selfishness. You meet a guy who has a relationship already and starts ‘bad-mouthing’ the other lady to have you and you stick to such a man because you want what he has not considering your sister that was about to be jilted? Never worry; your time will soon come. You meet a lady that is vulnerable, needy or the age of your daughter and starts sleeping with her because you have started paying her school fees. Along the line you realize you have really fallen for her but she uses your money to service some younger guys. Now she is out of school and about getting married to another person and there you are complaining of heartbreaks? Did she really break your heart? Shouldn’t you have been the father of the day at her wedding if you were smarter?

Insensitive People – How could you believe you are the only woman in the life of a guy that lives in a duplex all by himself? How could you have fallen for a married man that is promising you marriage? How come you fell for a guy who tried to sleep with on your first date or who slapped you and claimed it was a mistake?
How could you have given your heart to a lady that is encouraging you to get a loan to go shopping? How come you fell for a lady that was never prudent from the beginning; who compares you with her friend’s guy? It should have occurred to you that you have fallen for a highest bidder who would soon leave you. Didn’t your ‘mama’ warn you about such babes?
How come you didn’t know your husband could be tempted by a matured house-help while you were too pre-occupied with your career?
A 25 year old lady arrived Lagos from one of the south western states in Nigeria and visited a guy she had met online for over a year. She was able to get herself a room and would spend the weekend with this guy. The guy showed her the latest result of his HIV test which was negative and she allowed him to have his way with her. According to her she sometimes noticed female’s bags and also noticed the kitchen was too full for a normal guy’s kitchen. And there was this particular call that once it came the guy would have to leave her to receive. She was not sensitive enough so the guy kept using her till we met during one of my coaching sessions. I asked her to insist the guy took her to visit his parents and not to give him sex any longer. That was the end of the relationship for the guy only for us to find out the guy was billed to marry another lady in 3months.

Jealous People – Jealous people hardly ever keep successful relationships and their jealousy is what destroys them at the end of the day. They are overly suspicious of their spouses and trade unnecessary accusations forgetting that no woman can successfully track down a man. She reads meanings to his secretary’s posture; asks questions that suggests what he would not have done ordinarily unfortunately the person she trusted the most with her husband (her sister) was the one that eventually broke her heart.

To be continued