It’s a wonderful day,

Guys i have decided to write this from my study in other to share my deepest thoughts and discovery with you.

Gradually we are finnaly discovering that no nation can play God to us. or how do we expect the fact that the economy of the great country United States in going through a depression of sort.

Great Britain is not doing better either so also are the other so called world powers. I hope we would be able to finalilly come to our senses to discover that we God’s blessing is not from abroad; its from above.

It is a wake up call for all of us to fold our trousers and get set to work. It is a wake up call to re-adjust our expectations cos no one, i repeat no human or nation can give us the required help we desire from life.

But in my mediation i discover a great secret and the greatest opportunity in the midst of this chaos. you would agree with me especially for those of us who have been through SWOT analysis that in every weakness lies a strength and in every threat lies an opportunity.

So what is the opportunity in this great depression. Listen to me now and hear me right it is the greatest opportunity in this century to switch allegiance to another economy that works all the time and doesn’t go through depression. It is call Kingdom economy.

You may think it’s another religious jargons but why dont you take an hour off and listen to the voice of the President of that great country. You would be shocked to discover the unbelievable treasures you havent tapped. It is time to switch allegiance especially in this month of breakthrough

Friends get ready cos it’s the best time to live. I once read the story of a great man who was righteous all his life but was very poor.

On getting to heaven the angel decided to take him through an excursion of heaven and he was ushered into his room.

He was shocked to discover his room filled with so much treasure that there was hardly any room for him to even put a foot. Out of curiosity he made to ask the Angel why there wasn’t space in his room

‘How come my room wasn’t made ready?

the angel responded ‘ Sir you had a better economy here with enough treasure to make you the wealthiest man on earth but you relied heavily on the earthly economy that you failed to request for you heavenly treasure from the store house. You could have emptied your room by your withdrawals but you refused to and here you are with little space unfortunately the treasures in your room are not also useful here in heaven so we may have to transfer it to a Bill gates who knows how to demand from his treasure house’

Friends its time to look up to your economy and make the right requests.

It is our month of breakthrough and want you to know that you will make it but please in the midst of all of this don’t destroy any opposite sex through SEX. respect and contribute positively to their development.

Love you all

what a day and what a way to usher in a new generation!

against all odds the sexuality conference held at LTV 8 Combo hall Ikeja Lagos Nigeria and it was a great event by all standards.

For the first time young Nigerians were able to sit together to discuss the way foward for their sexuality.

The high point of the day for me was having people like Prof. Pat Utomi, Tara Fela-Durotoye, Deolu and Tope Akinyemi, Toyosi Akerele and my self show the young people the way out of the ….if you no fit hold bodi…..

I was glad that they were not ready to settle for what is not 100% safe. People may call us names or say we are unrealistic but we believe in the truth and we have resolved to follow the truth.

Will Furnish you with the details of the summit i

2000 NIGERIAN YOUTHS UNITE FOR THEIR SEXUALITY  

For a long time we have all kept quiet waiting for someone else to be responsible for our responsibility. We looked up to the 1^st world countries for aids and we got AIDS in return. Now we need them to help us mop the effect of the virus in Africa.

We all know the truth but try to run away from it. We have forgotten the adage that says if you don’t know where you are going at least you must remember where you are coming from. Where are we coming from Nigerians?

-          The original African woman tied wrapper in those days as they go about their businesses (no bra or whatsoever) yet it was a taboo for the original African man to violate her.

-          The fear of the deity was the beginning of wisdom for most of our ancestors because we have a family heritage that must be protected so it was a taboo to see teenage pregnancy.

-          Every wedding night there was usually the white bed spread to determine the status of the new bride so it was a culture for the young babes in Africa to keep their virginity till their wedding night.

-          There was dignity of labour so every African woman worked real hard to fend for their families. They had the same body but never saw their vagina as a means of making money

But now?

-          The modern man now could attribute his helplessness to the micro-mini wearing lady as a reason for rape.

-          The modern lady now sees her body and vagina as a means to getting what she wants.

-          Virginity is no longer in vogue so sex has now been reduced to fun.

-          There is no respect for the modern lady because with a litre of ice-cream or with less than 5k the modern man feels he could lay any lady to satisfy his wandering hormones.

-          Is it not shameful that 192 out of 200 Nigerian youths surveyed were sexually abused and have been involved with more than one sexual partner?

The unfortunate thing is that we still depend on the 1^st world people to help us out of the HIV/AIDS scourge when they haven’t helped themselves. Or how do we explain the fact that incest is no longer a big deal in some American states?

The question we really need to ask is ‘Are we really interested in solving AIDS problems or we are just out to make money just like they say ‘There is an opportunity in every adversity’?

How come we pay lip service to the truth and organize conferences when we have no solutions? We all know what happened in Uganda and how they solved their problems. Is it not challenging enough that today 40000 Ugandan students gather every week to strengthen their sexuality and stay committed to abstinence to preserve their country?

What is Nigeria doing?

The truth is that we can no longer wait for anybody to help us because the change that doesn’t take place in and with us won’t be sustainable. The bad news is that while the fall of the people before us was a fall into syphilis and other STIs which were treatable our fall is the fall into HIV which has no cure. Do we still fold our arms?

Do we know that there is a projection that says ‘If nothing is done, by 2020, 75million Nigerians would have been living with HIV? Do we still fold our arms?

How many more lives are we going to lose? How many more children would be orphaned in Nigeria as a result of HIV/AIDS?

I think it is time to Arise oh! Compatriots and preserve the future. It is time to say no to what they have told us and come up with our own solutions for our problems. It is time to say and talk about sex the way it is and get the truth into our system. Remember we are not just doing it for ourselves but for generations unborn as well.

I am certain you don’t want to imagine a nation with 75million of her work-force living with HIV? And that is why we have invited the best brains who are young, trendy, and successful and holding their body to share with us at this inaugural sexuality conference.

For the first time 2000 Nigerians will gather to declare their sexuality and come up as a positive force to restore our lost values. Every participant will emerge as a positive force as we seek to restore dignity, respect and purity into our nations.

We are not just dreaming we are living the dream because we have a dream that by Dec.31^st 2025 the highest number of virgins shall be found in Nigeria.

It doesn’t matter where you have been or what you have done. Together we can start afresh because a new chapter of the book called your life is about to be opened.

It would be our pleasure to receive you at this year’s SEX 2 SEX SUMMIT@ LTV 8 COMBO HALL AGIDINGBI IKEJA on Staurday 20^th September 2008, 9am prompt. You may visit www.praisefowowe.org to register. It is absolutely free.

Nigeria is about to make history and now is our time to get it done the right way.

See you there.

As i woke up this morning it occured to me that i was way behind my goals. of course i have been able to meet some but the ones i havent met were way beyond me.

I tried thinking through what i had been doing all along and it occured to me that i had focused on the less important goals at the expense of the most important ones that could turn things around.

I was doing a lot of good things which were not right. I was spending hours counseling people and helping them out of their issues without making them pay for it. Meanwhile i was struggling to meet my financial goals yet couldnt make people pay for my services.

of course it gave me so much pleasure to help people but what of the hours lost while trying to solve these problems? I am sure God will replace and repay me right? But He also punished some guys for not trading(making money with their talents)

It then dawned on me that God was not responsible for my inability to meet my goals I was the one responsible for not organizing my time and life in such a way that i would focus on first things first.

So i don’t know what you are going through at the moment. You might want to blame people and situations around you for where you are. the truth is none can change your world but you.

Do you want to blame your boss or a hostile working environment i want you to know that a thermostat confoms the enviroment to itself so no one can change your world but you.

Don’t even blame the witch in the village if you are in Africa because the greatest witch against you is the one you see in the mirror everyday.

No one i repeat no one can change your world but you so strategize, prioritize, get it right and make things happen. take responsibility and follow your dream irrespective of what people say.

let them call you names, stingy, difficult to see or whatsoever. Place a prize on what you have and trade with it. A banker solves financial problem while you solve human problems. Get paid for it but of course devote some time to helping the less priviledge.

You can! You must ! and you will!

and if you are procrastinating get up and make it happen now.

and remember if you get up to change your world heavens will open upon you and everything will fall in place.

But someone is asking how do i change my world the answer is simple. change yourself and your world will authomatically conform

I love you all and my son(a better version of me) sends his love to all of you

keep making it happen.

WHAT A WORLD
Have you heard the latest statistical projection that says ‘if nothing is done, 75million Nigerians will be living with HIV by 2020′.
The question we should be asking at the moment is what is being done?
Once upon a time the message was ‘if you no fit hold body….use condom’ and while we were yet to solve the riddle of our inability to hold body the tune became ZIP UP. But the question young people are asking is ‘How do we zip up when we couldnt hold body before now?
Are we really serious about this AIDS thing or we are just deceiving ourselves?
How do we hold body when all we see everyday are sex stimulants; how do we hold body when parents and religious organizations are still very quiet on this sexuality issues.
how do we hold body when the people who should have helped us pay our school fees are insisting we sleep with them?
How do we hold body when 192 out of 200 young people surveyed were sexually abused and have had more than one sexual partner?
As i write this at the moment over 106 girls are being raped in south africa.
What a world where the people who were meant to protect us are the ones destroying us?
what a world where once money is released to fight a plague emergency NGOs spearheaded by the people at the top spring up to siphone the money?

What a world where we have no respect for individuals and wouldnt mind destroying innocent souls as long as we satisfy our wandering hormones.
what a world where we are not willing to assist the vulnerable provided our family members are not affected.
But in this same world we have decided to effect a change by gathering 2000 young people come 20th september in Lagos Nigeria as we seek to determine our sexuality and preserve the future.
In this same world; great things still happen

THE EPISTLE OF PRAISE FOWOWE TO THE SEXUALLY PURE PEOPLE 

Praise, an apostle of Sexual Purity by the will of God, according to the promise of life that is in Christ Jesus.

To New Naija, my dear sons and daughters, Grace, mercy and peace fromGod the father and Christ Jesus our Lord.

The Spirit warns expressly that in the month of June perilous times shall come for men shall be sexually pressured more than ever and women will feel more sexually pressured.

Many who would not understand positioning may suprise themselves by falling in the face of temptation and many who have been struglling may not be able to hold their body this month. This is because the prince of this world has realesed so much venom and pollution into the atmosphere such that men would begin to compromise their quiet time, and go several days without prayers.

Men will become so busy that they would not pay attention to their closet life. Secret and besseting sins will be the other of the day and as a result of continuous struggling with sin and the fall of many respected people, the love of many will wax cold.

But he that endureth till the end shall be saved because there is still a balm in Gilead and the hand of the Lord is not too short to save.

Let the married men among you take heed lest you fall into extra-marital this season but know that after june there will be summer so keep your eye on summer and refuse to fall this season. Avoid compromising situations and questionable privacies. Communicate your feelings to your accountable friends and know that you have all it takes to stand this season.

Friends i hear expressly that the devil has asked for permission to sift you like the wheat but I have prayed for you so that youu may stand and when thou art converted strengthen thy brethren.

To the singles among you, there is an exchange going on at the realm of the spirit. Every sexual intercourse is an exchange in this month of June and the target is your destiny.

As we build towards 2025, the devil is more angry that the Lord has put solutions for the problem of this nation inside of you and he has vowed to take that solution away from you so that you can become ordinary.

Remember that Mike Tyson was refferd to as Iron Mike Tyson until he compromised his sexuality and he became a punching bag in the hands of an unrated boxer.

Learn from Governor Spitzer the fomer governor of New York who compromised his sexuality and lost not only the governorship but also bid farewell to the future prospect of a shot at the white house. Remember he was displaced and replaced with a black man who was also blind.

The devil is out to steal what God has put in you to make 2025 a reality but he will come after you in the form of the closest person to you. The lady you least expected or even the man that you respected so much.

Let he that has ears listen to what the spirit is saying to the church.

And to our wounded soldiers, i mean those of you that have fallen in the course of the year. This is not the time to give up becos i see a grace released on your behalf for restoration. I sense the season of Jubille in my spirit where all that the enemy has taken shall be restored unto you. However pay attention to your sexuality this season and learn to open up to elders that can help and strengthen you.

I commend you unto God and the word of His grace that is able to keep you from falling and preserve you all through this month of June. To him be all the glory for ever and ever.

Greet Deolu Akinyemi and Tope my fellow burden bearers for me and the whole house of Generis solution.

My young people, do your best to stay out of trouble this season and to Uncommon Man Network do not forget to take the patchment i left in thine house along.

The Lord be with your spirit. Grace be unto you.

Your brother

Praise Fowowe

STATE OF EMERGENCY – EPILOGUE

It is a wonderful day my wonderful people. I can’t but appreciate you for your encouragement messages and wonderful mails. One thing that is so clear to me right now is that we have all come to appreciate the fact that we need to pay more attention to our children and I know we will have better families if we can do just that.

I thought I’d concluded the state of emergency series last post but up till now I keep getting more mails from children who are willing to bare their minds on their secrets. I was also shocked to discover that children were not the only ones that responded a few Dads and Mums also joined their children to share their secrets. I must say that I appreciate your sincerity and I hope you will carefully follow what I asked you to do.

I am not really going to say much today as a lot has been said already however some of us were still asking for more advice on this state of emergency and that is why I am writing this.

The first thing I would like to say is that there are different approaches to different problems.

For those of you that have new children my advice for you is to devote more time to bringing up your children. I often say to young couples that there is no point giving birth to a child that you won’t have time for. I can understand the fact that we really need to make money but money can never take the place of the care and attention that you child deserves.

The truth is no one can be trusted enough with your child as you must have seen from the echoes from the children. Most of the perpetrators of the child sexual abuse were close family relations.  I know of a pathetic case in which a new born baby’s tummy started swelling. The child was taken for different treatment until it was discovered that it had to do with the accumulation of semen that the child had swallowed. It was later discovered that a certain guy within the family that the mother was fond of leaving the baby with was always having oral sex with the baby and would make the baby swallow his semen. The baby died as a result of this.

I want to repeat the fact that nobody is worthy of your trust. The only person you can trust your baby with is you. And in case you have to leave your baby or child with one person or the other I will advice that you bond properly with your child such that it becomes very easy to ask him/her come innocent questions of which you require innocent answers. For example the predator(abuser) will usually instruct your child never to tell anybody about the abuse if she/he wants to keep getting more sweets.

You can ask your child if anybody gave her a gift in the course of the day or if there was anything that happened that she was told not to tell anyone(maintain an innocent look). Because children are very innocent you are most likely going to hear her say ‘Uncle Tj touched my ‘Bom-bom’ and asked me not to tell anyone’

It is not difficult to get your children to talk provided you are willing to ask the right questions.

My second advice is for those of us with teenage children. Please don’t get so busy not to know the latest slang that young people use and their meanings. I will also advice you to ask your son to bring his friends home while you carefully observe them from afar. It will be so easy to detect the child with the right values and wrong values.

Finally you need to get close to your child enough to know when she is being disturbed by the opposite sex. The first person that should date your daughter is you as a father so take her out; find out what she already knows about sex and tell her the truth about sex.

 If your child has already been abused, or was one of the children that responded to my ‘echoes from the heart’. I think the first step is to apologize for being too far away from them after which you go ahead to assure them of your care henceforth. Don’t shout when you discover some shocking secrets, what has been done has been done. You only need to manage what has been done and get your child to talk to a counselor if you can’t do it by yourself.

 If you have a daughter that has never told you of being disturbed by a guy or your son has never told you of a particular girl that gets his attention. Don’t assume that all is well; it simply shows that they are not free to share their intimate affairs with you. And once they are no longer free to discuss their vulnerable states with you it is only a matter of time before they arrive at a STATE OF EMERGENCY.

Note – I will advice every parent to visit a local book store and get some new books on parenting and child psychology. It will go a long way in helping us through the different stages of our child’s development. I also recommend for every family to start their ‘Open day’ where every member of the family is free to express intimate issues and get solutions from within the family.    you sud get a copy of the Undressing Sex DVD(a comprehensive sex education manual for every home) you may call 08037269483or buy online at www.booksng.com to get it delivered to you anywhere in the world

STATE OF EMERGENCY – SOLUTIONS

I don’t really know how you feel as a parent having gone through the echoes from the children. So many parents have been trying to reach me asking for solutions to these problems. It has gotten to a state that we can no longer fold our arms and declare ourselves independent under the guise of ‘my children are spiritually filled’ because you can’t be too sure if your child wasn’t among the respondents.

Anyway let me quickly say a great welcome to my readers once again and thanks a lot for your concern. I am as concerned as any parent here especially going by that 14year old respondent whose brother has been touching her every night. I have gone out of my way to speak with her mother and spoken to the boy as well. The situation is being handled at the moment but what I discovered later was beyond the mail she sent to me. The boy wasn’t just touching her; he was actually having sex with her. The mother almost passed out when she was confronted with the reality while the boy kept weeping profusely begging for forgiveness.

I am not too sure how many families are going through the same experience. I will try to proffer solutions to some of these problems today because I think we deserve a better family life than we are getting at the moment.

Every parent must know that what you knew when you were 14 is quite different from what your 14year old child know already. With the exposure to internet and the various cable TV your child probably know as much as you know already about sex if not more so don’t assume that your children don’t know anything yet no matter their age.

If you live in a one room apartment my prayer for you is that God will increase you so that you can get a better apartment but I must also warn you not to assume your children are fast asleep whenever you are sleeping with your wife. It is a costly assumption. I think you need to find a better way to make love to your wife than at night when you think your children are sleeping.

My advice is for you never to allow your male child share the same bed with the female. Don’t even allow them sleep together on a mat while you are on the bed. You can make sacrifices for the sake of your children by sleeping on the ground in-between them while your husband sleeps on the bed or your husband can sacrifice by sleeping on the floor with the male child while you sleep on the bed with the female child.

If your are fortunate to be living in either a flat or a duplex. I will advice you to have the girls’ room separate from the boys’ room and be smart enough to do routine check mid-night.

The implication of what has happened to that girl is that she might turn out to either detest the opposite sex or become very promiscuous. There are other traits she may begin to exhibit such as withdrawal, inferiority complex, anger, depression. If the case is not properly handled she may end up in abusive relationships. Parents with such a girl must show her a lot of love and closely monitor her for her to rediscover herself. I will advice you to let her see a counselor or a balanced psychologist (I mean someone that can combine psychology with spirituality). She needs all the care that you can give her at the moment. Take her out to places she has never been, talk to her at the level of feelings and assure her of your support.

All the parents reading this need to properly educate their children about their sexuality;

From 18months to 3 years teach your child the proper names for sex organs and explain why some parts are covered (private parts)

From 3-4years – Teach the differences between the boy and the girl’s genitals and properly answer their questions such as where do babies come from. You can say somewhere inside the mother

From 5-7years – At this stage they become more aware of their gender so seek to know what he already knows about certain sexuality issues and begin to explain rightly.

From 8-12years – They worry about being normal with penis and breast size featuring prominently in these worries. This is the stage you must not lose your children because whatever happens at this stage determines whether you will continue to have your child or you will lose him.

 To be continued  

STATE OF EMERGENCY – ECHOES FROM THE CHILDREN

The question we should all be asking right now is ‘Where were the parents when the children were going through all these’? Before I go on I need to tell you a particular boy who narrated how he brought his friends from school and were talking about the ‘courageous’ girl in their class only for his father to come in and join in the discussion. The only problem was that while the father’s definition of courage was confident and bold; the children’s definition was ‘a big breasted lady’  

Uncle Praise,

My greatest secret that my parents must not know about was the day I was impregnated by our neighbor. I was disappointed in myself. It was very painful when I had to undergo the abortion but I had no choice. I still feel the guilt each time I go to church but haven’t been able to open up to anyone. This is the first time I am talking about it and I feel better.

K (17) 

Mr. Praise,

I have told you this before but if you have forgotten, it was the day I woke up and found my sister’s husband trying to force himself on me. I tried to resist him but everyone was asleep, I fought him but he was more powerful than me. Since that time he has always been buying gifts and telling me how good my body looked. I have avoided him ever since but haven’t been able to tell anyone. Should I?

T (16) 

Mr. Praise,

I am 14 but the problem is that my elder brother doesn’t allow me rest every night. We live in a one room apartment. He has been touching me every night. I have not been able to shout because I don’t want my mummy to beat him. I have warned him to stop but he keeps doing it everyday. Me I am afraid to tell my parents o.

G(14) 

Hello sir,

Thanks for this great opportunity because I know my parents read your column but they won’t know I am the one. If I become a mother I would get so close to my children and treat them as my priority. I feel what some of us go through is the result of what our fathers do to other people’s children.

My father has molested my friend before and I see him running after campus girls. He tries his best to protect us but the truth is I doubt if there is still a virgin in our house any longer. For me it was my father’s driver that sexually abused me for a long time before one of my teachers at school took over. I hated both of them but couldn’t speak up because my mother was a career woman. I have had 4 failed relationships. I gave them all my heart and my body but was used and dumped. Now I have vowed never to allow any man touch me again. My father brags about me but he doesn’t know me.

B(18) Conclusion  

This is not for us to begin to take our children for virginity test or to start threatening them. It is for us to know that these things are happening around us and for us to get closer to our children. A lot of us have left our children in the hands of strangers who are messing them up but the truth is that nobody will ever love your child more than you so we have to create enough time to relate with our children; be in tune with the current slangs and what they mean; see the movies they see and explain what you’d rather keep quiet about; show them the way by being the right role-model; create an enabling environment where they are free to be themselves knowing fully well that we love them; and above all please correct in love and still love them even when you discovered they have gone beyond the normal boundary.

I love you all and wish you all the best as we try to win our children back.

 STATE OF EMERGENCY - ECHOES FROM THE CHILDREN

I have dedicated this edition to what some of our children have been sharing with me that they wish their parents never get to know about them. Yet they know they still need the parental love that can help them out of these situations. I have deliberately omitted the names because I promised them that I wasn’t going to publish the names.

 Dear Praise, How do I explain to my father that it was our drycleaner that first had it(sex) with me at 12. At 14, I woke up one day in the middle of the night to discover my guardian (my father’s friend) trying to have his way with me. I was disappointed in all the men I have ever met including my father whom I know hasn’t been faithful to my mum (I caught him twice with my auntie). I decided to join the girls network (a global network of lesbians) through one of my friends. I have a lot of partners at the moment and it is becoming extremely hard to relate with the opposite sex. I really need help because I have just realized that what I am doing may not help my future but how can I be free when I know my father also needs help?

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